Middle School Student
Indian + Chinese
Q: What do you have in common with your teachers?
A: I hate the weekends. I have five extracurricular activities, which is not a lot compared to some people. Three of the activities are on Saturday, and two activities are on Sunday. My older sister has seven extracurricular activities and six of them on the weekend so it is even busier to take us both to some different classes. I like my extracurricular activities, but it is extremely chaotic.
In fifth grade we did a vote to see what our favorite weekday is. I was the only one who picked Monday.
My teacher never understood why I picked Monday because he did not try to find the reason. I was very surprised that he did not try to find out why because he was the person that always asks “why?” to everything.
Actually, I did not even have this in common with my classmates either. What I learned from this experience is that people, especially teachers, will not always try to get to know you and you will not always get the opportunity to get to share things about yourself.
If you do not get the opportunity to share a little bit about yourself then the teacher will not know the similarities and they will not think that he or she can relate to you. From this experience, I also noticed how important it is to have even the smallest connection to a teacher, it can help you agree on things to make your classroom community better.
Q: Does it matter that students and teachers have things in common?
A: Yes, I think it is important to have things in common with your teachers because it helps you and your teacher have a better connection in school.
By having similarities the teacher can get to know you better and put that into your learning to help you learn in a better fitting way. It can also help with communication. It will help you communicate and talk to your teacher without feeling like talking to a total stranger.
A teacher looking at their students will probably think of them as stereotypical kids in their grade if they do not want to put in the effort to notice them as individuals. Without having a connection with your teacher or student, it is going to be hard to understand who they are as a person. At school, they might act a lot different than they actually are to show the perfect impression towards their teachers or other students.
It is also important to have things in common with your teacher because that way they can have empathy instead of sympathy. Instead of just feeling bad for your teacher or student you can relate and imagine what it was like in their shoes. This allows the teacher and student to have a more personal bond so they feel more comfortable talking to each other with more personal things.
Humanizing the gaps separating teachers and students.